Sex Positions Pretty Much Guaranteed to Help You Orgasm
Who doesn’t want to have crazy acrobatic “Wow my shoulder can do that?” sex? Everyone wants that! But, TBH, often it can be that much harder to orgasm when you’re wrapped up in making sure you don’t accidentally pull a hammy. No, sex isn’t just about the orgasm, but it sure is nice when you have one (or multiple, especially given the female orgasm gap. The best way to figure out your body is through experience and practice, so don’t be afraid to give it a few tries.
“Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. “When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions.” To help you get there, here are 23 sex positions recommended by experts to make sure your orgasm is the main event.
THE PEACE OUT
Sit in a chair and have your partner put two fingers on either side of your clitoris, scissoring their fingers together while gently licking or sucking the tip of your clit. “This allows for maximal stimulation to the clitoris, both the sides and the head at the same time,” which can send you over the moon, FAST, explains Laurel Steinberg, PhD, a professor of sexology and relationship expert.
THE BANANA SPLIT
Your partner thrusts into you from behind as you’re on your belly with your head down. Not only does this allow for deeper penetration, but you can have them knead or spank your butt for improved orgasm. This position is great if you’re a little nervous about letting your partner see your O-face too, says Steinberg.
THE ARMCHAIR TRAVELER
Another good couch position, the Armchair Traveler has you on your knees and bent over, holding onto the couch arm while your partner enters you from behind. If you want to take control, you can also have your partner stay still while you thrust backward into them, using the couch arm for leverage while you thrust. This angle can allow for deep penetration and your mind is free to focus on your arousal or any fantasy you choose, adds Needle.
THE SUPERCHARGED SPREAD
According to Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, the clitoris and vulva contain nerve endings that are particularly responsive to the sensation of vibration, so if hand stimulation isn’t quite enough to get to you there, that trusty vibrator ought to do the trick. A vibe can also help with any performance anxiety—it’s harder to worry about whatever when you’ve got a turbo-charged sex machine between your legs (or two, depending on your partner). Your partner holds your ankles—pressing them close for a tighter-feeling fit and spreading them wide for an “OMG, you feel huge” effect.
COWGIRL STYLE
Sex therapist Susan Block is all-in with woman-on-top, because you can stimulate your clitoris without losing momentum. “Rather than lying there wondering when they’re going to thrust in perfect time with your erotic needs, you can set the rhythm and take them in as deep or as shallow as you like. Or if you prefer, stay perfectly still (you can do it—you’re on top!) and tantalize both of you by squeezing and releasing your Kegel muscles,” says Block. “You can bend over, give them a kiss, and rub your chest against them or sit up and let them have a good look at your gorgeous self, maybe play with your boobs…or reach behind you to squeeze or spank your bottom. Really, the possibilities are endless.”
THE UP AND OVER
Missionary position will never be the same again. “While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you’re folding in half,” says Solot. This move allows your partner better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration—a perk for both of you. But consider this a warm-up—you’re getting yourself primed for a more intense orgasm. Once you feel like you’re getting into a groove, put your legs down and have them get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. “They’re on top, but they lift their pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris,” says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. “Then they rock against the area until you peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone,” adds Brame.
ON TOP OF THE WORLD
Being on top tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm and for good reason. “It allows you to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to your clitoris,” says Berman. “You can touch [it], have them touch it, or rub against their pubic bone to achieve orgasm.” But you can up the ante by literally pulling a 180. Twist around so you’re pointed toward their feet in reverse-cowgirl position. “Instead of straddling them, put your legs together, feet flat between their legs,” suggests Brame. The benefits of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making the sensations more intense. Plus, there’s increased internal stimulation, which combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.